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BY FATHER JOHN RYAN A CATHOLIC MAN IS MARRIED TO A NON-CATHO- LIC. CAN SHE BE BURIED WITH HIM IN A CATHOLIC CEMETERY? The following regulations concerning this matter are taken from the Second Synod of .the Diocese of Rockford: No 1: Non-Catholics may not be buried in a Catholic cemetery unless they are members of a Catholic family or the non-Catholic spouse in a mixed marriage. No. 2. In ~uch cases where burial of a non-Catholic is authorized in a Catholic cemetery, a priest dressed in street clothes, may go to the home or funeral parlor and cemetery and recite some appropriate non-liturgidal pray- ers. No. 3. Non-Catholic religious rites, including all types of sectarian and fraternal services, are never permitted in a Catholic cemetery. This prohibition does not refer to civil or military honors. I WAS TAUGHT THAT AFTER YOU MARRY YOU TRY TO SETTLE YOUR O W N TROUBLES AND DON'T CARRY THEM TO YOUR PARENTS. AM I RIGHT? ]~arriage represents a union of two fam- ilies. Your relatives normally will be a source of friendship and support. How- ever, working out a balanced relationship with them is not always easy. In a sense, marriage is a "weaning" process through which you must learn to transfer your primary loyalties to a new unit--the fam- ily which you are establishing. Parents sometimes" forget this. and some young married people do too. There need be lit- tle trouble if you learn to stand together as a couple from the beginning. Settle your problems between yourselves. Don't carry them to outsiders, even your mother. On the other hand, immature spouses resent any atten- tion their partner pays to his in-laws. This is childish, One cannot be attached to a family during the first twenty or more years of one's life and then suddenly start to act as if this attachment did not exist. You must grow up to a mature relationship with your in-laws. Accept them as they are. Decide together how much help and ad- vice you will receive from them. Don't make the mis- take of working out some mathematical formula for viSit- ing his parents on the first Sunday of the month and hers on the third. When you marry, you are presumed to have grown up. You can show proper love and respect for your parents without being chained to them. This is a process which must be worked out with understanding, patience and love. IS THE Y.M.C.A. CONSIDERED A RELIGIOUS OR- GANIZATION? A Catholic is forbidden to be a member of the Y.M.C.A, for these two reasons: 1. The Y.M.C.A. is essentially a religious organization: 2. A Catholic who subscribes to or supports the tenets of some other faitb is in effect denying the truth of his own faith. As proof of the first point that the Y.M.C.A. is essential- ly a religious organization we appeal to statements made by authorities within the Y.M.C.A. itself. The first is Owen F Pence, Y.M.C.A. Director of Records. Studies a n d Trends. He defines the Y.M.C.A. as an "organization com- posed of young men who are united together for the pur- pose of ministering to the spiritual, intellectual, social and 7steal needs of young men." He goes on: '(The reli- gious spirit of the association has been dominant from the beginning. All welfare w~)rk for young men was con- ceived of as an expression of the religious spirit this distinguished the association from boys' clubs, social set- tlements, boy scouts and many other agencies for the so- cial betterment of young men." In 1936 the Association drew up a statement of pur- poses and aims. This authoritative statement made it clear that "the C in Y.M.C.A. stands for a particular qual- ity of the Young Men's Christian Association which is more than philanthropic or secular, that is, it is a Chris- tian association . . . It is an interdenominational fellow- ship, as compared with the distinctive approach of vari- ous communions." For a more complete treatment of this subject, I sug- gest a small pamphlet published by the Liguorian Press, Liguori, Missouri, "May Catholics Join The Y.M.C.A." I KNOW A CATHOLIC MAY ATTEND A NON-CATHO- LIC RELIGIOUS SERVICE, AS THE FUNERAL OF A CLOSE FRIEND, BUT IS HE PERMITTED TO STAND AND SIT AT CERTAIN TIMES ALONG WITH THE REST OF THE CONGREGATION? It is generally admitted by theologians that the act of standing with the congregation on the part of a Catholic attending a non-Catholic religious service is not active participation, and so can be allowed as a mark of cour- tesy. Qne of these theologians, Vermeersch, says that acts indiferent in themselves, which are considered as required by politeness in some way, ought not to be omitted on these occasions, as, for example, to uncover the head and to stand when others stand. Questions for "YOU ASKED IT" should be sent to: Father John Ryan, St. Joseph rectory, Lena, Ill. It is not necessary to sign your name unless you wish a per- sonal reply. However, Father Ryan reserves the right not to use unsigned questions. The equality existing among the various social members consists only in this; that all men have their origin in God the Creator, have been redeemed by Jesus Christ, and are to he judged and rewarded or punished bY God exactly according to their merits or demerits. -Pope'St. Piss X We measure everything by the standard of the future, rather than the present, and define as u#eful only that which will be of service to us with reference to the grace of eternal life. --St. Ambrose Little does passing time matter to a soul which aspires to eternity, and which only takes notice of perishing mo- ments in order to pass them into immortal life. St. Francis DeSaleg "~mss 0~ Vol. XXVI. No. 18 May 5, 1961 THE MOST REVEREND LORAS T. LANE Publisher THE REVEREND ARTHUR J O'NEILL Managing Editm THE REVEREND WILL}AM I. JOFFE .Asst. Managing Editor MARJORIE GALLAGHER Women's Page Editor ROBERT W~LLEMS News Editor ~EULAH O'MEARA Business C 3ERT J STARR Advertising ANN BERTOLASI Circulotion The Observer IDrinted weekly at 413 Pleasant Street Beloit Wi*- onsln is the official newspaper of the Catholic Diocese of Rockford. Second class i~ostage paid at Be at Wisconsin. Subscriptions $4.00 per yem prepaid in the Unitecl States " ALL COMMUNICATIONS SHOULD BE ADDRESSED TO THE OBbERVER 1260 NORTH CHURCH STREE1 ROCKFORD ILLINOIS. POSTMASTER: please send form 3579 to the OBSERVER, 1260 Hortl) - C.bi~rcb $tseat, Rockford, Iillnoiik )r Initiative is a h man trait which is both use- ful and highly admired by all. This ability to originate ideas and the courage to work t h e m through is something which needs constant urging. In theory we give the nod "of approval to initia- tive, but in practice we are less convinced of its urgency. We are somewhat stifled easy-living and mechanization and sated with the enervating philosophy of the "hand-out," Consequently t h e need for initiative is not fully appreciated either by individuals or by groups. Remarks on the importance of initiative have been appearing in recent statements of such prominent l~aders as Pope John XXIII and Presi- dent John F. Kenndy. Speaking to the Congress of the Italian C o n- federation of the Independent Farmers last month, Pope John had this' to say in his "dicta" on their need for having faith in themselves: "When a nation, or part of it, becomes used to expecting everything from abroad and is m o r e inclined to accuse others than to stimulate itself there is reason to fear for its freedom and for its life. Indeed, the help and the work of society are necessary and sometimes irreplaceable, as We again wish to say: but they cannot replace per- sonal initiative, the keen industry of each person who thinks always of bettering himself by draw- ing on his resources of t a I e n t, capability a n d thrift." For the proper development of this "faith in one's self." the Pope recommended the avoidance of the subtle dangers of egotistical i11dividualism that isolates and paralyzes every effort and he also pointed out the necessity of cultivating a deep sense of solidarity and mutual assistance. To have initiative does not mean cut one's self off from everyone else: it does not entail go- ing it alone without regard for others; rather it THE USUAL. SCAPEGOAT REAPINGS AT RANDOM I @ slon - By Gerard E. Sherry The Television Information office in New York City has recently reprinted several chapters on "Television and the Child," a study sponsored by the Nuffield Foundation in England. The document, although based on a survey of British children, has some telling disclosures which shoul4~ be of interest to all American parents. On the question as to whether television improves chil- dren's general knowledge (and this would exclude the strictly educational programs) the report has this to say: Gain and Loss "On the whole the gain was very slight, but varied with the type of child. Children can undoubtedly learn from television; but viewing takes time. some of which might be spent with books or other sources of information. It incurs, therefore, both gain and loss. We found a net profit only for the younger, duller children. "There were several reasons for the ab- sence of gain. Documentaries and the dis- involves a perceptive wsion of the over-all prob- lem and a willingness to contribute personal ef- fort in cooperation with others for the solution of those problems. The need for initiative on the part of the small nations of the world was stressed by President Kennedy in his r e c e n t remarks on the Laotian crisis. The President stated that we as a nation are willing to help those who are anxious to help themselves. This was a kind of warning and ad- mission that our nation cannot shoulder the bur- dens of the world without cooperation from oth- ers. It is a sad fact that many of the smaller na- tions seem to expect unlimited material aid a n d even military protection from us without effort or hazard on their part. The fact that this does not work without local initiative is one of the sad lessons of our times. ~' If the indications are so strong that initiative is vitally necessary for the working man and for the small nation, it is likewise true that initative is necessary in all areas of life. The need for vision and zeal is most urgent in family life; it is a cry- ing need in life of the Church. There are far too many who give no thought to tomorrow but are content merely to sit back and w a t c h develop- ments from the side-lines. Some call it passivity; others cab it lethargy; a more penetrating diag- nosis is that it is lack of initiative. fin From the point of view of vigorous leadership, President Charles DeGaulle of France emerges as a man of strong principle and especially the re- cent French crisis of widespread revolt of French troops in Algeria against the President's policy of ireedom for Algeria. Judged solely on the basis of material loss and gain, France stands to lose a great deal from the proposed freedom for Algeria. A glance at the map of Africa before World War II reminds us of the great French West Africa and African em- pire once dominated by France. French Equatorial Africa is now cut up into many independent na- tions. Algeria. the richest of all, is the last to start on the road to independence. It is understandable thai vested interests in France would attempt to hold Algeria as a French possession. DeGaulle's program for Algerian liberation has not b e e n popular with the French. But it was a matter of principle with the French President. The era of colonialism is ended. The rebellion of the French troops led by Gen- eral Maurice Challe added fuel to the inflamma- tory world situation. Newscasts from Paris told of an imminent invasion of Paris by French para- troopers. Divisions recalled from West Germany as well as mechanized units on the home front had questionable loyalty to DeGaulle's Algerian plan. Some highly placed men of civilian rank in government circles were unfriendly toward De, iL Gaulle. It was a tense situation and had all earmarks of an internal revolt which would meafi- the end of the DeGaulle regime. But his own decisiveness and adherence to prin- ciple in the face of the conflict coupled with the deserved loyalty of the majority of Frenchmen, enabled President DeGaulle to end this revolt in the short period of four days, an unusual feat in these days of delays and stalemates. France. under the leadership of President De- Gaulle. is again becoming one of the leading na- tions of the world. There is new direction and pol- icy. The crux of the development of the "new France" is the leadership of President DeGaulle; the strong leadership evidenced by DeGaulle springs from his unyielding adherence to princi- ple--a trait far too uncommon among world lead- ers. SPOTLIGHT ON SOCIAL REFORM cussion programs offered a good deal of information: but the type of information contained in programs "designed especially for children is also readily available to the controls from other media, so that there is little advantage to be gained from view- ing. Adult information programs were not very popular and did not always get their points across even to adol- escents. In any case, younger children do not remember the content for any length of time, so that there is little I~r~ af ia~r~ Psr~. oar xasults stag- Patrick E. Gorman, Secre- tary-Treasurer of the Amalga- mated Butchers and Meat Cut- ters Union of North America has a facile pen. We enjoy his writings in the Butcher Work- man magazine, but frequently dissent f r o m or distinguish some of his ideas and state- ments in regard to our rela- tionships with the Soviet and what constitutes sound a n d ethical trade union leadership, In the March-April issue of the Butcher Workman he runs an editorial of pertinent inter- est. It might well be cited as an example of objective com- ment on a heated labor ques- tion. We presume permission to re-print it. The editorial runs: Will Meany Resign? "At the recent Executive Council meeting of the AFL- CIO in Miami Beach the 'scuttlebutt' of whether or not President Meany should resign, or will resign, or maybe will re- Sign at the n e x t regular c o n v e n tion oi t h e AFL- CIO in December of this year was circulating t h r o u g h out every nook and cranny of the Americana Hotel. "Our International Union has had s o m e experiences with President Meany which caused us to smart no little as to the wisdom of his thinking. In the one decision he made in a na- tional situation affecting our organization in which he acted as arbitrator, we still think his reasoning was faulty and quite illogical. While our organiza- tion was meeting with ~he top officials of the old Fur a n d Leather Workers International Union (*) for the purpose of a merger, we were advised that President M e a n y had stated that if we went through with this merger program it would probably mean the expulsion of our International from the old ,eany- n,on FATHER WILLIAM SMITH, S. J. American Federation of Labor. Because we persisted in follow- ing through, there were some members of the e x e c u t i v e council who turned their heads the other way when p{tssing any of our top executives. This n a r r o w m i n dedness, to us, seemed appallingly ridiculous. "The rumor mongers have it t h a t so long as President Meany remains on the job it will be impossible for anyone who was an executive officer of the old CIO group to ever become president of the .merg- ed organization. If this is so, then the whole merger was a near-fraud upon both groups and the sincerity of the merger was as phony as an artificial dandelion. "We could never agree with President Meany's o p i n i o ns concerning the Teamsters In- ternational Union because the principal officer of that union, who. is President Meany's tar- get of attack, has y.et to be long as he holds the Presidency of t he AFL-CIO, he and he alone, is the one hope that there will eventually develop trust, qnity, and cooperation in the present rather weakly unit- ed labor movement which he master-minded. If his health is such t h at he may feel he should not carry on. he would understand that he still owes a responsibility to the thirteen million men and women who look to him as their chief. In this, he can select additional able assistants to help carry his load. Little Lost Sheep "While there are some welt qualified men servin executive council, in all frankness, he towers head and shoulders over any of them. At l~ast the labor move- ment and the w o r 1 d knows exactly where he stands. This much cannot be said of some of the others on t h e council who consider it an honor to as- convicted on any of the charges sume the executive titles be- hckxwas-accused of or tried for. stowed upon them without as- It would, therefore, seem that suming the responsibility of the old legal tradition of the contributing something m post- presumption of innocence until proven guilty should prevail. We do not believe that because our organization voted against the expulsion of the Teamsters International we should in any manner be even partially so- cially ostracized by a few of the hierarchy of the AFL-CIO because of our sincere convic-, tion in this matter. Would Be Calamity "We have not always agreed with the foreign policy of the AFL-CIO, or even the personal attitude of President Meany on the part organized labor must play in world affairs. "President M e a n y comes from very sturdy fighting Irisn stock, and this inborn aggres- siveness causes him. bn occa- sion. to be unduly blunt. Too often it would appear that in heated conversation his words have a tinge of profanity. "Will President Meany re- sign? In our opinion it would be a calamity for the l trade union movement if he did. So tive thinking for the welfare of the workers', the nation, and the free world. Without Presi- dent Meany many present offi- cials in the labor movement would be, temporarily at least, like little lost sheep. "We trust that the strong personal opinions of President Meany as to who should or should not be allowed to serve as an executive officer in the labor movement should be tem- pered by this realization that the wishes of the membership in such matters are supreme. Anything short of this would be something less than democ- racy. "George Meany should re- mare as President of the AFL- CIO. We may occasionally con- tinue to disagree with him. but even in t h i s h~ will always have our utmost respect." (*) At the time the old Fur & Leathe~ Workers Internation- al Union was trying to defend itsell against charges of Com- munist domination. W.J.S. ~b In gest that gains in general knowledge comes mostly from adult non-information programs; these contain useful de- tails of plot and circumstances which are more readily remembered because of their dramatic content, Good For Young Children "For most children in our survey, television proved nei- ther a help nor a hindrance as far as general knowledge was concerned, except for the younger or duller chil- dren (as yet able to read very little), for whom it proved a real advantage. Their gain in knowledge proved the equivalent to what ~ child would normally gain in the course of four to five months of intellectual development. For these children, television provided information in the form and the pace best suited to them--in dramatic and above all in visual form. Grammar school viewers, on the other hand, did not gain; in fact they proved a little less knowledgeable than their controls. Viewing offered them little that was new and took time away from other sources of knowledge, such as reading or radio. "Although children remembered nature programs well, they carried over little of [uch programs into their gen- eral knowledge of this subject or into their performance in related subjects taught at school. Gain in knowledge of current affairs was negligible because children had lit- tle interest in these programs. There was' equally little gain in cultural interests. Few children, for example, went to a museum after seeing exhibits from it in a children's program." Effect on School Work How does .television affect children's school work? The report says: "On the whole, viewers more or less held their own with classmates of similar age, sex, social class and in- telligence, but the brighter children in both age groups tended to fall a little behind. "Television created no particular interest in any school subject, nor were viewers markedly better or worse at any of them. "Viewers and controls als0 spent much the same amount . of time on homework. But the qlosing of the transmission gap between 6 and 7:30 may well make ~ difference here and a repeat inquiry is needed under these new Condi- tions." The report also asserts that television does little harm to the child's interest in school affairs and points out: "'There was no difference between viewers and controls in children's subjective assessments of tiredness in the morning, nor in ratings by class teachers of each child s concentration. Interests Not Affected "0n the other hand,half the teachers, when asked for their opinion, said that one of the three important effects of television was the children's tiredness in the morning and consec~uent lack of concentration. Their views reflect- ed their general attitude to television and their class- room experience with viewers: our findings were likely to be more valid since they were derived from a com- parison of viewers and controls, taking into account the number of children without television who nevertheless lacked concentration and felt tired. "Children's interest in school or school societies did no~ seem to be affected. Viewers and controls differed neither in the age at which they would like to leave school, in the frequency with which they took part in extra-curricular activities, nor in their attitude to school as judge.d by their class teachers."